Creating a Coherent Life Story


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Dr. Keith and Corey discuss the primary goal of psychotherapy — to help people experience themselves every day as living a happy ending to their life so far, and at the very beginning of a wonderful and exciting new chapter. This goal, of course, requires a more integrated self in order to meet the inevitable challenges, triggers, and opportunities that we will encounter on the path of growing up, and for us to be able to create a cohesive and coherent life story for ourselves as we move forward


I so loved this topic today and as always found great value listening to the podcast a second time. Dr. Keith and Corey both share such great pearls of wisdom in a short time. My favorites (and i might be paraphrasing here…) :

“i expereince myself living a happy ending of the story of my life…so far and being at the beginning of something good or wonderful happening” . I am putting this one at the top of every page in my daily diary!

"…when we are aligned and we have a coherent autonomous autobiographical narrative (story) and committed to purpose, surrendered to be in service we have access to downloads from other places " - great motivation to stay connected to our wise self!

(paraphrased i am sure…_) - 'An integrated consciousness never loses connection to its wise self - my interpretation … that part of me writing the great story. ’

When i think about the times in my life when not great things happened with a prolonged slump occuring, it was because i had difficulty getting back to my postive story or instead of anticipating something wonderful happening next spending far too much time anticipating something worse. In hindsight (as pointed out in the podcast) that was me being totally disconnected from my wise self that knew better. I did not have many strategies for getting out of it.

The advice to be in touch many times throughout the day with our wise self - just checking in is a simple and effective way to stay aligned with a life that is working out well. Since the podcast, I have been practicing that more throughout the day and feel more relaxed and somehow reassured.

When i am in the middle of subjectively experiencing something unexpectedly aweful, Its hard to remember to reach for this more positive response but …I wonder if now that I KNOW what to do when life happens not as expected… if I will more readily remember to go there. I guess integration is the key so i am making this new practice a habit and am keeping tabs on me! :slight_smile:

Thanks for another helpful Witt & Wisdom