I'm looking for books on shame/humiliation that cover all 4 quadrants


As the title says, I am looking for books (and other resources) about shame and humiliation. I’d like to learn about these emotions from all perspectives. I’ve included some books I’ve found so far. They may also give you a better idea of what I’m looking for.

  1. John Bradshaw - Healing the Shame That Binds You
  2. Gershen Kaufman - Psychology of Shame
  3. Peter Breggin - Guilt, Shame, and Anxiety
  4. Ute Frevert - The Politics of Humiliation
  5. Leesa Ward - Get Over Being Humiliated
  6. William Ian Miller - Humiliation
  7. Shelley Stokes - The Trauma of Shame and the Making of the Self

Thank you so much for the suggestions!


Hi WillE,

I hope you’re well!

This is an interesting topic. I read only part of this book, about 6 years ago, but I think I remember it being helpful: ‘Radical acceptance: Awakening the love that heals fear and shame within us’ by Tara Brach.

Also, Kristen Neff’s book 'Self-compassion: stop beating yourself up and leave insecurity behind, and ‘The compassionate mind’ by Paul Gilbert are very good (in my opinion from 6 years ago). From reading many academic articles on self-compassion also I think this is a core ingredient in people overcoming issues with shame, as well as being accepting of the emotion of shame.

Kristen Neff also describes very well how self-compassion differs to self-esteem: https://youtu.be/IvtZBUSplr4.

I also think this Townes Van Zandt song has a good line about shame: https://youtu.be/TYZD-Hh1gKA.


Thank you for those resources :slight_smile:

I completely agree about self-compassion. In my own journey with shame it has been the biggest help, possibly rivalled only by humour. Although, self-compassion helped me start seeing the humour in the things that once gave me only shame.