I think for me, I do not consider myself to be “a Liberal”. I still hold mostly conservative values and socialize in Liberal / Alternative circles.
The most limiting and harmful thing I think I could do to myself would be if I defined myself by the terms others want to place on me.
Here are what I feel to be core conservative values
- Self reliance
- Accountability and not blaming others
- Responsibility, including fiscal responsibility
- Strength of character
It’s completely possible to hold these values and operate in any social circle - until they demand you support a cause that you do not believe in as the price of remaining in that social circle.
I have stronger conservative values than 70% of Republicans, at the very least. That’s where the disconnect is. I could be against the Gulf War and vote for Obama because I saw the biggest damage being done to the US was the Gulf War - which violated conservative values at a very deep level. Failure to recognize that war as what it was has trained Republicans to not be honest within themselves to the point where now their champion is someone who Regan and Nixon would punch in the face.
It also supported my core values to protest in favor of LGBTQ rights 10 yeas ago, and that leads to an interesting thing about Liberalism. Liberalism is often a pot luck of people who the Republican party just pushed away and wanted to make their mere existence illegal. Why does it bother a Neoconservative if two men get married? That has nothing to do with true conservative values. Same thing with transgender rights. You should only be seeing the genitalia of your patner, so what does it matter what genitalia a complete stranger has under their clothing, and why make it illegal for them to live their life how they want? So that whole thing was my 2nd great transition to Liberal social circles.
The third thing was ironically the far right. I recognize that it was all mostly a misinformation campaign, but I really got into the Oathkeepers, Anonymous and Prepper misinformation around 2012. The funny thing is that they all suddenly just did a complete 180 on policy in both 2016 and again in 2020. Immigration is a great example. The Oathkeepers started out by videotaping police overstepping their boundaries, especially along the border where the border patrol set up checkpoints and required random ID checks within the US. Before that during Bush’s administration they were all about border security, then when Obama came in they did a 180. Then suddenly when Obama left office another 180.
I find it very easy to interact even with feminists. I just don’t blame them for my own problems, lol. I don’t worry too much about other people’s hypocrisy because that would be a full time job. If you and Jordan Peterson, etc make a bit of coin by converting others into the culture of blaming others and refusing to accept personal responsibility - that’s unfortunate but for my own mental health I don’t dwell on it too much or try to “rescue” them. Everyone has their own path to follow. Your path is a circular one that will lead you back to where you started - but that’s your choice.
Yes, outspoken vegans are annoying at times. Yes, so are very outspoken feminists. But so are Republicans. Generally what I observe in my social circles is that it isn’t “cool” to be outspoken in those kinds of ways when everyone is just trying to be sociable. We organize specific meetings and groups for specific topics - so vegans get together and rant about meat eaters, but don’t bring it to the general party, for example. This is in contrast to Republicans who just don’t know when to just shut up. The other week a friend of mine started on his anti-vax monologue during a game and after about 5 minutes of nonstop monologue one of our friends just said “Well, we won’t solve it right now so let’s just move on”, lol.
I think what I would request you to look at, @steljarkos is when you are actually practicing truly conservative values self accountability vs when you are looking for a scapegoat. I don’t have anything invested in whether you listen or not - it’s all up to you.
What is interesting is that even the Dark Ages were not really Dark for everyone. In the age of “Might Makes Right”, those with the might fared pretty well. Feudalism worked out pretty well for the Nobility. Even for the peasants it wasn’t worse than the setup they had before. If we look at the Dark Ages from our time period, yeah - they suck. But a slave of Rome with zero rights getting buggered on the daily by his Roman master might have seen Feudalism as a sweet deal.
I don’t think we will see a breakdown of civilization to the point where we see in post apocalyptic movies and a single strong man holds “might makes right” power through force of arms alone. What I observe in the prepper community is that the Republicans think more weapons will win the day, while Liberals think gardening will. Honestly, it’s far easier to teach a person to shoot a gun than it is to teach them to create or identify safe food in a forest. So my Seattle mushrooming and other Liberal foragers will find food and if Bubbah the gun-toting gorilla follows through on his plan to steal food from the Liberals - he won’t be able to recognize the deadly poisonous plants the liberal collected as a trap, lol. That’s an extreme example, but demonstrates that in the end you can’t discount intelligence as a greater weapon than brute force, and so on up the ladder of social organization. People who are self actualized will be able to build cohesive communities while those who are toxic and / or blame others will destroy communities that allow them in.
Here we have to look at the younger generation, where nonduality seems to be at least an interest among the 20-something crowd. Neo-Darwinian and Atheism was the Liberalism of the 70’s and 80’s and most of that crowd are over 50 and dying off. The Liberalism of the 2020’s is more about the Earth Mother, Gaia, nonduality, Oneness, and so on. No, they haven’t got it worked out yet - but at least they are exploring new territory in areas that might work out well for humanity (and not destroy our biosphere).