Let me clarify a few things if some of your statements are intended for me. First, on the whole, I am not “offended” by arguing or disagreement or conflict openly addressed, or even foul language. While I did have a flare of anger as I mentioned in my first post, and yes, felt temporarily annoyed but moreso, saddened, by the quality of communication, I also took time (was forced to!) to examine my emotional response and my impulse to “dress the community down.” As I mentioned, the posts on this thread were sort of a “last straw” for me, as during the past couple of months, imo, there has been an ongoing atmosphere of hostilities–antagonism, malicious attacks on people rather than ideas, including name-calling, a lot of snark and snipe, all of which has had cumulative effects, at least on me. I’ve been at this site for three years, and have never seen anything like what I’ve seen these past few months. Does that mean that I’m demanding anyone of you on this site change behavior to meet my preferences? No, not at all. Do as you will. And I will do as I will: speak up on the topics I want to, when and in the way that I choose, including the overall quality and tone of conversations… As I understand it, there is no one public moderator for this site; the community apparently expected to moderate itself, so I feel I have the right to speak when something seems, to me anyway, off or not right in some way. In that regard, you and I are not that different. We just speak about different things, in different ways.
As for the “foul idea” you referenced, about Jarosek’s views on feminism—what can I say? The subject of feminism makes me a little tired, along with wokeness and cancel culture and MAGA and Antifa and all the rest at the heart of the culture wars. Which doesn’t mean I don’t have views on them, or won’t express those views. But to engage in verbal warfare around them is not my usual forte or, at least at this point, my cup of tea. I do have a background in which at one time I was not just “very active” but played a major role in the feminist movement in a large city. That was only for a few years, during my “green” period, and what can I say, I outgrew it–the social activism that is, not my support for a society in which men and women have equal opportunities and neither sex subjects the other to abuse or oppression.
As for Jarosek’s (and I don’t even know who this person is) “myth of patriarchal oppression,” there is both some truth and falsehood with that, imo. Some feminists have written about labor divisions between the sexes during certain periods of history being responsible for women being cast into the private (domestic) sphere while men ran the public sphere (and once in public power, men not wanting to give that power up). Wilber too has spoken of this, and Corey. For instance, the story goes, during the horticultural period, women shared the field labor as they were capable of using the digging stick. Matriarchy and European Goddess cultures were present to some extent during this period of perhaps greater social equality. When agrarian methods came in, with the introduction of the plow, women did not have the upper body strength to use the plow, and that kind of labor also threatened pregnancies, so women were driven “inside the home” and had less cultural power in the public sphere.
I can follow this line of thought, and agree with it mostly, but it has never explained fully, for me at least, male sexual and other violence towards women (and children), which is also a cornerstone of feminist activism, particularly since the beginning of the 2nd wave of feminism in the 70s into the 80s. (And that focus continues).
As for Jarosek’s statement you quoted of feminism being a “bankrupt ideology” as it is based on patriarchy, I don’t buy that. All you have to do is look at Afghanistan; if some of that oppression of women and girls is not patriarchy (based on religion), then I don’t know what is.
While I don’t mind responding when asked directly about feminism, and will occasionally address something related on my own, no one should assume that just because I’m female, I’m here to take that up as my “cause,” because I’m not.